It's like we are our own TV series and every episode (everyday) we play different characters. We are given a script by others to act out who they want us to be. But the question we should be asking ourselves is who do I want to be?
It can be confusing. It's like we have split personalities sometimes “we all to some extent tend to make ourselves into the image other people have of us”. As I see it we are too focused on how we are to act and be around other people, never really considering who we are. How do we show or share the “real” us with people without worrying about their expectations? Other people only see us differently than how we see ourselves because that’s what we allow. It’s like they see us as one person and we see ourselves as a completely different person- “all of this is self -deception”. We are subjecting our freedom. Our freedom from others and their expectations which interferes with what we want.
How can we avoid others from influencing our freedom? When we allow them to influence our thoughts and how we act, “we see our value in terms of the acceptance we get from other people”. We are more than what we think. I think we need to stop making excuses to avoid our freedom to choose for ourselves by creating our own characters (who we want to be) and write our own script.
I agree with Banach “I am free to do whatever I choose”. I can’t avoid my freedom; I just tend to make excuses for it. It’s like I am afraid to make my own choices and decisions and as a result allow others to influence them or make them for me. There is an imbalance between my outside self and my inside self – pleasing others vs. myself. Going back to the article where Banach refers to us as flipping who we are to be accepted. Why do we try to be someone we are not? When we can choose not to and just be ourselves. The freedom to be and create who we want to be and how we want to be seen by people and not the image they see of us. Isn’t that what “absolute freedom” and “individuality” is about?
We are in control of our own lives. We are not puppets for others to control. We should cut our strings because our freedom is inevitable. So we are not trapped into being or portraying someone we are not.
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I like how you say that we all follow a script because i agree we all at some point have "acted" like someone wants us to be. You also say "As I see it we are too focused on how we are to act and be around other people, never really considering who we are." I think in the end, we all are trying to find out who we are, so we try out so many " scripts" until we actually know who we are. You actually try to understand what Banach is saying, i've read other blogs where they just plainly disagree with his views. You focus a lot on how we try to deceit ourselves from our from our freedom maybe you should try to talk another point of his like when he talks of human flourishing and our essence. But your post showed me you truly understood what Banach was saying
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I loved the fact that you put the truth into your post. I felt the realness and connection. I agree that we can't avoid our freedom, we just tend to make excuses for it..we as human beings I think are just scared of failure so we make up the 'get out of jail free' card when it isn't always needed. We can never show the real us if we are constantly changing ourselves, maybe not as rapidly as some but none the less changing.Society makes us want to be a certain way. Limiting our true freedom and the discovery of our true identity. I loved your question at the end and I think you are doing a great job so far, so keep up the great work! :]
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